By Derrick T. Byers
Nothing puts a whole new perspective on going out with the kids like a well-timed tantrum. There are several quick and easy ways to bring this unnecessary display of emotions under control. In our house it includes, but is not limited to, heavy sedation and electric shock therapy. (Just Kidding!!!) If you are in need of some quick and effective solutions, then relax. We have them here. Remember however that it is important for you to stay calm when your child has a tantrum and remember this is part of a child’s normal development. Children between the ages of 1-4 don’t have appropriate adapting skills and they have limited communication and verbal skills. This may causes them to become frustrated because they do not know how to express themselves or their needs. But regardless of why your children is having a tantrum, here are some ways on how you can tame them:
Get Down To Your Child’s Level
We know eye contact and non-verbal communication is imperative to communication. When you bring yourself down to your child’s level physically, by twisting, bowing, sitting, or lying directly down on the floor, you are telling them that you are in that spot with them. You will find it considerably simpler to find eye contact, and you’ll make your craving to communicate known when you break the height boundary and communicate on a level playing field.
Recognize Tantrum Triggers
Keep a tantrum journal. What circumstances set up your little volcano to erupt? Also, when and where do they frequently happen? In the event your baby or toddler often have afternoon meltdowns at the grocery store, attempt to shop soon after morning naptime. When you comprehend what ignites his/her frustration, you may be able to help prevent tantrums before they even start.
Create a Diversion
Distract your child and get them in engaged and keen on something else so he/she overlooks the meltdown she was simply having. “My purse is loaded with a wide range of diversions, as toys – ones my children haven’t found in a while, books, and yummy snacks,” says Alisa Fitzgerald, a mother of two from Boxford, Massachusetts. At whatever point a tantrum happens, she takes them out, each one in turn, until something stands out enough to be noticed. “I’ve likewise found that diversion can help avert a noteworthy meltdown before it happens, in the event that you get it in time,” she includes. On the off chances that your child is going to go insane at the grocery store since you won’t purchase the super-iced sugar-bomb cereal, attempt rapidly switching gears and eagerly saying something like, “Hello, we need some ice cream. Want to help me pick a flavor?” or “Ooh, look at the lobster tank over there!” “Kids have quite limited capacity to focus – which means they’re generally simple to divert. Also, it generally it helps on the off chances that you sound outrageously psyched when you do it. It gets their psyche off the meltdown and on to the next thing substantially faster.”
“You need to channel your inward on-screen character and be a performer – one with props!”
Acknowledge the Tears
When your child has a tantrum, you need to be there for them, yet it’s critical to always feel the need to quiet them down and shush them. It’s alright to give our little children a room to grieve the loss of a toy or be sad when they leave Grandma’s house. On the off chances that we generally shush them when they are disturbed, we send the message that it is not alright to express their emotions. Life is frustrating now and again, and it’s alright to give your emotions a chance to show sometimes.
Clarify Your Reasons
As parents, we may end up denying our some of our child’s wishes left & right. When we offer an explanation for why something can not be done, we offer clarification and show that you care. In addition, the explanation helps children figure out how to make sound choices for themselves and helps them think about potential results of their actions.
Comfort your child
The truth is that you, as a mother, know your child best. You will know whether the tantrum he/she is tossing is a noteworthy blowout or a slight show of outrage and dissatisfaction. As a mother, you additionally know whether it is best for your child to relinquish all that repressed steam by him/herself (with you close-by obviously), or whether it is best for you to hold him or her to help them calm down. There is really a system known as “holding” that is best utilized on kids who jump at the chance to thrash around and risk harming themselves or potentially others. You can begin with sitting against a divider (in order to support your back) and take full breaths to calm yourself down first. At that point, specialists propose that you ought to imagine yourself as a warm and comfortable cover and continue to hold your kid near you with his/her back to you and wrap your arms around them. If your child is a kicker, simply fold your legs over their so that he/she doesn’t kick
In order for this method to work, for this method to work, it is important for a parent to keep their cool and stay as calm as possible.
Offer Food or Suggest a Little R&R
Two of the most common tantrum triggers are being hungry or tired. A proven recommendation: feed them, water them, and let them veg – whether that implies putting them to bed or giving them a chance to watch a little TV. Think how cantankerous you get when you pass up a major opportunity for rest or your blood sugar arrives in a desperate predicament. Young children have more prominent rest and food needs so it seems as if the impact is magnified ten times as much when compared to an adult.
Give Your Kid Incentive to Behave
When you need your child to participate in a long activity that they have no interest (I.e. Church Service or eating a restaurant), you may want to try the following trick: “It’s about perceiving when you’re asking a lot of your kid and offering him/her somewhat pre-emptive bribe”. “While you’re in route to a restaurant, for instance, let him know, ‘Alex, Mommy is requesting that you sit and have your dinner pleasantly this evening. I truly think you can do it! If you behave and finish your food then when we return home and I’ll give you a chance to watch a video.'” For the record, Pearson says this kind of gift is impeccably fine, so long it’s done on your terms and early – not under pressure amidst a tantrum. In the event that your child begins to lose it anytime, tenderly remind him about the “treat” you discussed. “It’s astonishing how this can in a split second whip them once again into shape”.