By Austin Oppenheimer
Let’s be honest here for a sec; even the best of us keep secrets from our better halves. Perhaps you are worried your spouse will get hurt if they found out the truth or afraid that the full-disclosure will do more harm than good. Besides, shame, fear of disapproval, and disloyalty are other familiar drivers for keeping secrets from spouse. Nonetheless, the repercussions of keeping secrets from your spouse are dire. It spells doom for your relationship and marriage as well as impact adversely on your health. But, did you know keeping secrets from a spouse can also affect your child?
Rollercoaster of Emotions
You might not realize it, but keeping secrets from your spouse can drain you emotionally. With time, you’ll start distancing yourself emotionally from your spouse and then your kids. In the end, your home becomes a nest of solitude and emotional discontent. That’s a big no-no for your child’s emotional growth.
You see, when children feel neglected emotionally, they begin to think they’ve done something wrong. By doing so, you’ll be putting your child on a rollercoaster of emotions. And, believe it or not, this will affect his or her in the future.
Divorce and Separation Affect Your Child Psychologically, Physically, and Spiritually
It’s no big secret one of the consequences of keeping secrets from a spouse is divorce or separation. Once your spouse finds out that you’ve been keeping these secrets, your marriage begins to tear apart. And, if not salvaged early enough, you can find yourself before divorce lawyers.
The impact of separation or divorce on your children are well-known – and it’s never good. Your child will most likely start behaving erratically and aggressively in response to the divorce. Others will fall prey to vices like drug and alcohol abuse. As if that isn’t bad enough, raising a child as a single parent can affect them mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Bad Role Model
It’s well documented that children imitate their parents. That’s why it’s wise to set always set an excellent example for your little one. Of course, keeping secrets from your spouse will not only backfire on you but also show your child that such an act is okay.
Parents Fighting is Not Good for a Child
Sure, constructive fighting between parents can do some good. However, fights and quarrels that ensure after a spouse finds out about hidden secrets are never useful. As such, destructive conflict at home can interfere with your kid’s ability to pay attention and may create learning problems at school.